Missouri State Highway Patrol — Public Information and Education Division
Information for Survivors of Fatal Crash Victims
Our Deepest Condolences
If you are reading this, you have been given some devastating news about the unexpected death of a family member. On behalf of the Missouri State Highway Patrol, we are very sorry for the loss of your loved one.
This booklet was prepared to assist you and your family in understanding and getting through these difficult times. It will provide answers to commonly asked questions and give you guidance about the grieving process, including where to turn for help.
What Do I Do Now?
Notifying Other Family Members — Consider what other immediate family members need to be contacted. Do not make a notification alone. Seek support from clergy, friends, and neighbors.
Organ and/or Tissue Donation — Carrying out organ donation wishes is possible only if you act expeditiously as recovering organs is a time-sensitive process.
Appoint a Family Representative — Sometimes families find it useful to have someone more detached from the situation take charge of certain responsibilities.
Whom to Contact:
• Church (including pastor/clergy)
• Schools and Employers
• Insurance companies
• Social Security Administration
• Attorney, Banks, Retirement funds
• Credit card companies
Vehicle/Vessel Location
Information regarding where the vehicle/vessel was towed should be noted on the crash report. Contact the tow company to ask about removing personal belongings.
The Grieving Process
You have been given devastating news and are most likely in a state of shock. As a survivor, it is important to remember you are not alone.
Common Feelings: Many survivors report feeling "in a fog." Expect to experience a wide range of emotions for years — this is normal. Grief is a natural response to a life-changing loss.
Stages of the Grieving Process:
• Denial, Disbelief, Numbness, Shock
• Anger and guilt, Blame
• Sadness, Despair, Loneliness
• Depression
• Acceptance and hope
• Adjustment to change
Health Tips:
• Surround yourself with friends and family who love and support you.
• Eat healthy meals; avoid alcohol and mind-altering drugs.
• Sleep and rest as needed, but get involved with an activity.
• Grieve at your own pace. Give yourself permission to take breaks.
• Avoid making major life-changing decisions.